DIVORCE
Jesus says that divorce is a no no. For how can you separate one flesh!
“‘From the beginning of creation ‘God made them male and female. ‘for this reason the man shall leave his mother and his father and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together let no one separate.’”
Mark 10:6-9
Jesus says that Moses allowed a certificate of dismissal or divorce, because we people have hard hearts! Is that an excuse!? I say no! Far better to grow and change than to be hard of heart!
Jesus goes on to say that there is only one reason that divorce is “overlooked”, unchastity (adultery). If your spouse is unfaithful to you Jesus says divorce is excepted (not accepted), but if there is no infidelity, you have no excuse! I happen to think that this also means that if you marry a person who claims to have never lain with the opposite sex, and then after marraige they tell you they did, that person was unchaste, and unfaithful, but I am not saying that this should be used as liscence to divorce!
Divorce is never condoned, and only “excepted” or excused in cases of infidelity, and then ONLY BECAUSE of the HARDNESS of YOUR HEART. Yup, it’s on you folks!
Besides! If you are getting a divorce you are placing your trust (or lack of it) in man, not on Jesus! If you truly believed that Jesus was all powerful, you would believe He could heal your marraige! No matter how hard! And not only COULD, but WOULD!
Divorce is eating away at our families in the US, it is eating not only unsaved people’s families, but the families of Christians! How dare we take the easy road! The Lord walked that narrow brutal dusty path to Calgary! Can we not endure for but a season in a rough marraige?
Oh I can hear all the “But…” and “You don’t understand… ” and “you aren’t married to MY…” Oh yes, so you are different!? No, NO you are not! The Lord holds you to just as high of a standard as the rest of us. He holds you to the WORD, and HIS Word says divorce is BAD. It is like redning apart ONE body. (Not to mention what you do to a family body when kids are involved… You are responsible for them too!)
How can we even begin to justify divorce if we are truly loving and seeking the Lord? I see no way!
“‘Any man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and any woman who divorces her husbandand marries another commits adultery against him.’” Mark 10:11, 12
I have a special anger against divorce. A righteous anger against something that breaks the Lord’s heart and stirs Him to anger. You can say I am not being compassionate (I might agree, since that IS NOT MY GIFT, LOL.) But I tend to think I am just being HONEST. If you love the Lord and really trust Him, you can trust Him to heal your marraige.
It doesn’t matter if it is SO bad you cannot stand one more day. You do not have to stand on your own power. Call out to the Lord, reach out to Him who is able to do all things! He will give you peace, and power to stand. Whenever we try to do the right thing out of a love of the Lord and His Word, He is faithful to uphold us, and to give us strength to perservere.
If you have to take it one day at a time, so be it. Pray everyday, all day if you have to, but do not commit another sin by divorcing your spouse. Disobedience is promised retribution, a curse is upon those who choose to disobey. (Deut. 28:15….)
And please don’t try to tell me that “the Lord told me to divorce him! (or her)” We all know that for the LIE it is. The Lord has said in His Word, with aboslute clarity exactly one reason for divorce, adultery, and NO OTHER. He is not going to excuse you for having a hard heart. We will all be held accountable at the Judgement. Do not use the Lord’s mercy and sacrifice as a liscense to commit sin! Do not divorce knowing you will be forgiven, for that is liscentiousness… and a sin in and of itself!
If you have divorced a woman, (or man) and that person married another, and either divorced them, or was widowed, the first spouse MAY NOT remarry her (or him). This is an abomination to the Lord. (Deut. 24 :1-4)
Boy that is a hard one! Yep, I have heard of this happening! And it is condoned and encouraged! Because it is “the reuniting of the one flesh!” NO I tell you, it is abhorrent to the Lord, you have caused another to be defiled! Do not bring shame to the Lord! Obey His commands and He shall set a blessing before you. could you even imagine if He healed your marraige, and gave you a new spouse in the old spouse’s body!? It can happen, if you choose to be obedient, and choose to seek the Lord. (And I don’t mean praying “Lord please change HIM!” I mean “Lord please change ME, and heal my marraige!”)
Grow up in the Lord. Pray, fast if you must, but lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge the Lord! and He will make straight your paths!
Lord, Help me to pray righteously when I am angered by sin. It appalls me and angers me when people sin against you. Forgive me if my heart is in the wrong place, and set me straight Oh Lord. Teach me how to pray! Amen.
Be At Peace in HIS Arms,
Meg
