Comments on: Ten Reasons for the Failing of American Marriages http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/ Thoughts on marriage, parenting, homeschool, housekeeping, doctrine and my life. Wed, 09 Dec 2009 20:23:03 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: Jeff http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-59714 Jeff Wed, 05 Aug 2009 03:00:19 +0000 http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/#comment-59714 That was a great post! You are so right on! I was sad when it ended - I wanted to keep reading. Thanks for posting that! That was a great post! You are so right on! I was sad when it ended – I wanted to keep reading. Thanks for posting that!

]]> By: meg http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-51545 meg Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:52:08 +0000 http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/#comment-51545 Elle, I have not touched on abuse, because, while MANY people ask me this question, I don't think they would honestly like to hear my answer. Furthermore, most people who ask this question are not looking for godly answers to REAL problems, only to point out that I am "legalistic" or some such thing. Were I to know a woman in real life, (or closely on the internet) who was struggling with such things, and asked my advice I would give it, tenderly, compassionately, and specifically for HER situation. Not every situation is the same. Suffice it to say, that I stand by my belief that divorce is a BIG NO NO in God's Word, and He has not made any special provisions for the woman who is abused, that I can see. Does that mean that there is no answer except to stay and die? No, but death is not the end of life for a Christian, so it IS a possible answer. I hope this was clear, I am not saying what any given woman should do in an abusive situation, especially in one in which her children's lives are in danger. I do believe that there are options that do not include divorce and that DO include safety. But I also want to be perfectly clear that death has no sting for the Christian whose hope is placed in Christ... and staying with an abusive spouse may be the Lord's will in some cases. (It is clearly His will in all cases that she not divorce him.) Am I clear?? I have been thinking of doing a post on this topic, but I'm not sure I can be clear enough... Mrs.MegLogan p.s. Welcome to the blog Elle,

I have not touched on abuse, because, while MANY people ask me this question, I don’t think they would honestly like to hear my answer. Furthermore, most people who ask this question are not looking for godly answers to REAL problems, only to point out that I am “legalistic” or some such thing. Were I to know a woman in real life, (or closely on the internet) who was struggling with such things, and asked my advice I would give it, tenderly, compassionately, and specifically for HER situation.

Not every situation is the same.

Suffice it to say, that I stand by my belief that divorce is a BIG NO NO in God’s Word, and He has not made any special provisions for the woman who is abused, that I can see. Does that mean that there is no answer except to stay and die? No, but death is not the end of life for a Christian, so it IS a possible answer.

I hope this was clear, I am not saying what any given woman should do in an abusive situation, especially in one in which her children’s lives are in danger. I do believe that there are options that do not include divorce and that DO include safety.

But I also want to be perfectly clear that death has no sting for the Christian whose hope is placed in Christ… and staying with an abusive spouse may be the Lord’s will in some cases. (It is clearly His will in all cases that she not divorce him.)

Am I clear??

I have been thinking of doing a post on this topic, but I’m not sure I can be clear enough…

Mrs.MegLogan

p.s. Welcome to the blog

]]> By: Elle http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-51265 Elle Sat, 06 Sep 2008 01:28:04 +0000 http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/#comment-51265 Meg, I agree divorce is ungodly and you make valid, biblical points on the case, but you haven't touched on abuse. The Bible doesn't comment on this subject in the context of marriage either. What would you tell a woman who was being physically abused by her husband? Or how about a woman who knew her husband was abusing her children (physically, sexually, etc)? Meg,

I agree divorce is ungodly and you make valid, biblical points on the case, but you haven’t touched on abuse. The Bible doesn’t comment on this subject in the context of marriage either. What would you tell a woman who was being physically abused by her husband? Or how about a woman who knew her husband was abusing her children (physically, sexually, etc)?

]]> By: meg http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-35251 meg Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:15:15 +0000 http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/#comment-35251 Ashley. Money, is just paper and metal, it cannot cause you to do anything. We all make our own choices. It may be that you mean to say that financial stressors encourage people to want to take the easy way out, or to think more of themselves, or to choose divorce, but ultimately they made a CHOICE. So the number one "cause" of divorce is CHOICE. And making this choice falls under both 1 and 2 (oh and 4). 1. When you take God out of a marriage (or if He was never there in the first place) then you are relying on other things to get you through. Nothing is stronger than God, and money certainly cannot hold a marriage together. (Case in point, celebrity divorces where they clearly have enough money.) 2. Lack of Committment, well, if you were COMMITTED in "richer or poorer" then, guess being poor wouldn't matter much. and check out number four too! God bless you, Mrs.MegLogan Ashley.

Money, is just paper and metal, it cannot cause you to do anything. We all make our own choices. It may be that you mean to say that financial stressors encourage people to want to take the easy way out, or to think more of themselves, or to choose divorce, but ultimately they made a CHOICE.

So the number one “cause” of divorce is CHOICE. And making this choice falls under both 1 and 2 (oh and 4).

1. When you take God out of a marriage (or if He was never there in the first place) then you are relying on other things to get you through. Nothing is stronger than God, and money certainly cannot hold a marriage together. (Case in point, celebrity divorces where they clearly have enough money.)
2. Lack of Committment, well, if you were COMMITTED in “richer or poorer” then, guess being poor wouldn’t matter much.

and check out number four too!
God bless you,
Mrs.MegLogan

]]> By: Ashley http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-34265 Ashley Wed, 05 Mar 2008 05:23:55 +0000 http://www.meglogan.com/2006/10/20/ten-reasons-for-the-failing-of-american-marriages/#comment-34265 as a junior in highschool doing a controversial issue research paper im focusing on teen marriage and after all the research i have found that money is the number one cause of divorce. Afterall, without security people may find themselves feeling like they need to escape... or the stress willl just build up and ruin the marriage. as a junior in highschool doing a controversial issue research paper im focusing on teen marriage and after all the research i have found that money is the number one cause of divorce. Afterall, without security people may find themselves feeling like they need to escape… or the stress willl just build up and ruin the marriage.

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