Meg Logan’s Blog

I believe in living my life with an open hand (giving), and an open (transparent) heart. This means that I choose to show even the not so nice parts of myself to those around me, and to allow my mistakes to be used for God’s glory. Many times God has used my failure, my sin, my mistake to reach another person’s heart, and just today that person was my son.

Let me recount for you the damage we do when we do not guard our tongue.

Recently, about four weeks ago, my closest friend (whom I have known for four years), and I were having a discussion about money and children. I said something very rude to her and insulted her husband’s financial wisdom, among other things. That is the confession. What I said was so rude and offensive and outside of my place, that she decided we no longer needed to speak to each other. In fact, she hasn’t called me since.

Now, because we have not seen each other, my son’s closest friend (her daughter) has not been over to play in quite a while. Today, my son finally asked about it and this is what happened:

“Mommy, is *****(my friend not the daughter) coming over today?” -my son
“No sweetie, I don’t think she will be coming over anymore.” -Me
“Why not?”
“Because I said something that was very rude to her, that I should not have said.”
“Jesus doesn’t like it when we say mean things to people.”
“I know. He didn’t like it when I said this mean thing to ***** either. It was wrong for mommy to say it. I should have been guarding my tongue like Jesus tells us to in His Word. But I was being foolish instead.”
“hmmm.”
“You know, this is why Jesus tells us to guard our tongues, because we cannot take those words back. I cannot make those words go away, they have been said and done their hurt already. And now my friend is very hurt, and doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.”
“yeah”
“But you know what? I have told ****** that I am sorry. And I really am sorry. Jesus has fogiven me for what I said. Now ***** needs to forgive me. I don’t know if she will, but Jesus requires that we forgive just as we have been forgiven too.”
“yeah!”
“So when someone offends us with their tongue by saying something rude and mean, we are to forgive them.”
“yeah, ***** needs to forgive you too, just like Jesus forgave her.”
“yes that is right, and I pray that she will. All Mommy can do right now is to pray that **** will be able to forgive me.”

and off he went to play.

But the lesson of my foolishness was not lost on my son. I am sure he was listening intently and will remember this. What a wonderful opportunity to share not only my life, but truth with my son. What a wonderful opportunity for God to bless someone (my son) with my failures.

Friend, if you are reading this, let it be known again, that I truly am sorry for what I said. I had no right, no reasonable excuse for saying it. It was wrong and a sin, and I name it as such. I hope and pray that you will come to forgive me, just as you are forgiven. I know that you are capable of great forgiveness, I have seen forgiveness worked in your relationship with your father. And I praise God for that. I am willing to resume our friendship at any time, whenever you so desire. Once, again, I ask you to forgive me.

Signing off,
Mrs Meg Logan

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